Saturday, November 8, 2008

Family Trials

Today was a hard day for me. My MIL had to go into a nursing home a month or so ago. She has Alzheimers and was getting very bad. Well today we had an auction at her home. My husband Steve is one of four brothers and three of them came to the auction, one from Florida, one from Virginia and my husband and I attended the auction. I cried when we got to the house and most of the items had already been moved outside or to the basement for the sale. I think it was because it seemed real to me for the first time. I am the total optimist! I think things are never that bad until I actually see it. And for me, seeing that empty house made me realize that my mother in law is really in a home, and does not know anyone anymore. My husbands one brother that lives right near there could not bother to come. That seemed wrong and Steve was upset, but that is another whole story. I think one of the things that bothered me most was knowing how hard she had worked all her life, raising four sons on her own. She was a great lady and I will miss that part of her. But she is happy, she loves for anyone to come see her. She does not miss us when we don`t get up, because she does not remember us. Everything is brand new to her. Kevin, the yougest son took her some ice cream and she was delighted with it, it was like something she had never eaten or even seen.
Maybe that is the best thing about this horrible disease.

4 comments:

everythingquilts said...

I never know what to say when I hear things like this. It must be really hard on you and your DH to go through. it mad me sad reading it. Hugs Donna

tisme said...

Thanks Donna, just getting to write these things out and having friends read them and understanding is what helps a heck of a lot.
Tammy

Holee said...

This disease does have it's bright spots. I have a girlfriend a little older then myself who has it. She lives with her daughter right now. She doesn't know who she is or where she is, but, if you start to sing any song from the 50's she knows everyword and sings right along. Her favorite is Earth Angel.

This disease puts everyone around you in pain while the person has been saved from pain and lives in a world they can tolerate.

I'm glad you can look at her with loving thoughts and memories of her best days. Some people, like her one son, miss out on this.

Quilt Hollow said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family......my heart hurts as I have learned my dad only has 3 to 6 months left. Cancer is taking him from us....